cyber mistress – strictly professional
I'm a huge fan of the silent quivers website.
The author is a lover of heavy corporal and all things strapping and bondage. Just what I like to deliver in a session. I do like a heavy masochist, they are so rewarding.
Do drop in and check it out. Some of the new stories are rather engaging.
Trikki Watson has been writing up my sessions and some of my more fun times as an unofficial biographer. Some of the things coming up I've seen the rough drafts for have had to be significantly changed to protect the innocent and punish those most needy.
Anyway, over on SilentQuivers.com in the blog is a full mother daughter session I did with Darryl the slave and our full service sub Angel. They both get a nice hard strapping, so much strapping, then Darryl gets the special reward at the end leaving him spent in every way.
This session leads on to many more blog posts. Trikki is releasing a new book via SilentQuivers so stay tuned for some premium free BDSM stories.
Mistress Tish
I always liked the title of my friend's website as it defines so many of my clients. They come to me after years of denial and avoidance, then they are literally quivering in the emotions they face in their first pro-Domme session.
I find it delightful at every level to be entrusted to make their first BDSM experience a good one.
So, please do visit Silent Quivers - do checkout the writings. While I am sure they don't apply to everyone, they sure to desonate with many of my clients.
I'm just wondering, what should I contyribute? Maybe details of a session? Maybe details of some of my equipment? We'll see. Work is totally engrossing, going through the startup phase and trying to delegate where possible.
Rick my long standing client who has been into BDSM for most of his adolescent and all his adult life said, "It is the powerful inner emotions that the BDSM I like triggers. It is almost as if I'm quivering, vibrating in my need for it at time."
Wow. He's right. I know some firsat time clients are emotionally super fragile when I meet them so it takes a lot of empathy and care to provide just what they want. And what they need. Sometimes those two things can be difficult to define and differentiate.
Rick has been a great client and now his partner is seeing to some of his needs for corporal and bondage. She's also giving him all the sex that I don't offer which is a good thing. I'll probably make time off from my new career to session with them again shortly. They are a delightful couple.
The best thing about Rick and his partner is that they've achieved a level of acceptance for BDSM and are able to take pleasure and shared intimacy from it. It brings so much to their relationship.
Play safe - play sane - enjoy life.
MT.
To all my loyal slaves, Mistress understands your disappointment at her lack of communication.
You see, I have been busy beavering away on some high tech work that is all very hush hush. Not only that, I’ve been living away from home and the work hours have been insane. There have been some interesting perks such as the morning workouts. I do love men in uniform.
One other thing that’s come to my attention has been the re-write of the website I’ve watched for a few years now. This is an interesting site that you kinksters out there will get some benefit from. It is Silent Quivers and it’s goal is to be a resource for the BDSM community.
Reading through it, it is clear the writer has suffered deeply from a lack of information and a stigmatization of the whole BDSM genre. It is his goal to educate and to provide topical and honest information. Do visit.
For now my loyal slaves, Mistress must get back to work.
I know. Why post again so quickly? Sigh.
The answer is that for some reason, posting the previous article about the Naughty Shorts book Trikki is writing lifted my spirits so much.
Also, it has made me make a decision. It helped set a course of action.
From making that decision I can feel a new lease of life, a new me even though I’ve not had a session in such a long time. Opening myself up has also been cathartic.
How long has it been since I had a session?
Maybe six months. Heavens. I can give five or more sessions to my clients in an evening, but does Mistress Tish get anything in return (well there is the money)? No. The answer is I give and give and all I get is cold hard emotionless money. Where is my stress relief? Who puts back into me? How an I fulfilled?
Who understands the difficulty of crafting BDSM sessions that captivate and consume my clients, shift their perceptions into sub space and gives them relief more than me?
Often clients and others peripherally on the edges of BDSM think the Mistress is all seeing and all knowing. Let me tell you. It can be a challenge. Sure I have an eye that takes in and analyzes with one glance. I see the kneeling slave, I can almost get into his or her head, then I craft the session to fulfil. To consume. To transport. But it comes at a cost. Nothing is for free. I put in energy both physical and emotional.
The physical effort is easy. I work out, I run, I swim and do a little martial arts training. But the emotional energy is different. It lingers. It sits deeply. Sometimes after a big afternoon and evening of giving demanding sessions I am washed out. I feel like my brain is almost bruised and I’ve got nothing more to give.
I suppose it would be easier if I didn’t care about my clients. I could just sort of session them. I could ease up on the creativity. I could fixate on me and my needs instead of giving them what they need (as opposed to what they want) and I think that would be a lot easier.
The problem is that it would not be honest. I would not be providing a proper service to them. I know my client list would shrink and my return-rate would drop. So the money would reduce. DAMN it is all about the money again.
I can only be me and that comes at a cost.
Now those of you following my blog (thank you) know that Roger has been a God-send for me. I’m not a clingy-needy person, but having a steady boyfriend has been a revelation.
Together and being a couple is almost addictive. Being up front and honest with him on night one was a winning strategy. Now he understands who I am and we form a couple based on trust and connection. Sure, the sex is brilliant and his mind is even better. Wow. The full package.
Hmm. I’ve not tried him with dancing yet. He is a bit geeky. It could be challenging to keep a straight face if I get him onto the dance floor. Oh dear. I’m feeling the humour in that right now. Again my spirits lift.
The problem is that the wonderful togetherness, the sex, the snuggling between the sheets and the soul touching communication aren’t the complete thing for me. My own need for a BDSM session is still there. It festers. It grows.
It is so hard to be honest isn’t it.
I know I expect it of my clients, yet when it is me and writing those words I was and am so tempted to erase the whole article.
What is it with this? I am a professional dominatrix yet I struggle to express my needs. It feelts strangly hypocritical and that upsets me. I hate dishonesty.
I know my sessions make my subs feel better. They come in stressed out, tense, almost quivering in their inner tensions. Then when they leave they are truly new people.
Yet I struggle with my own needs. I struggle to express them. Most of all I struggle to actually do something about it.
I have tried therapy. A little. It was a mixed blessing as not all therapists are created equal. In fact, before my first session where Magenta sessioned me, I spent an agonizing couple of hours on the couch talking about me. The insights from that really did help.
Maybe this could be yet another ‘short’ for Trikki. Mistresses first session. Oh dear. That would make it even slower to be released.
On that. Therapy. It is a strange thing to open oneself up to a stranger. No matter that they are a professional. But doing it really is helpful.
Thinking about that some more, it is exactly what my clients do when I session them. I am their therapist. I listen to their needs, I analyze their reactions, I take them through a session that gives them fundamental relief.
So why am I so precious about this?
It is a stigma that lingers long after my vanilla upbringing. My parents instilled in me a certain mind set that is not compatible with my work or my needs. Now I find that struggle in accepting I am a real person with real needs.
I will have a session.
Having made the decision and writing this, I feel the relief in me.
But you dear reader, and I know many of my subs follow my exploits, you all now know that Mistress is a real person with her own needs. She’s maybe not the ice-queen she portrays in session.
Like us all, Mistress is multi faceted. Denying one piece of Mistress, pushing it into the background leads to significant stress. Just like for her subs.
So, it is time for Mistress Magenta to take me to sub space again for an hour. The questions that leap out are;
1. What do I tell Roger?
2. Should he participate?
Sure, Mistress Tish gets her full service sub Angel to give her clients a happy ending. Should Mistress Tish when she is having a session herself have a happy ending? It is appealing. Roger may in fact enjoy it for a double or more happy ending.
Damn. Those are diverting thoughts.
Then the next demeaning question is;
3. Should I tell Trikki for his naughty shorts?
Damn and triple damn. How precious is Mistress with her needs? That is the real question. Oh. And how brave?
I need to talk to Magenta about this. When Trikki eventually publishes his book of naughty shorts it will be probably be over 500 pages and growing. I think he needs a little push to get it finished.
Pay safe and sane,
‘Tish
Trikki emailed me this week to say his book of naughty shorts was approaching 400 pages. I mean, how is that short? Maybe Trikki needs to be taken firmly in hand and made to understand just what the term ‘short’ means.
I grumbled that it’s been too long in coming to which Trikki made a comment about coming I won’t dignify.
However the good news is that my two entries have been expanded out to be really quite engrossing. The short about my boyfriend turns out to be a winner – and my MILF session is interesting to say the least. I think maybe Trikki needs a MILF session to bring it a little closer to reality – but it is not bad.
Some of the other shorts are interesting. Where does he get his ideas from?
Have you ever despaired of the entitled generation? Well you’ll love one of his stories about ‘millennias’ and how they are taken in hand to make them the best they can be. I found that funi to read.
Our mutual friend Rick also gets a big mention. Twice. I was never into self bondage but Rick does make it feel attractive. i could be talked into giving it a try one drk and lonely night.
Oh. That is if I break up with Roger. He is more than capable of filling my needs at the moment. He’s not trained in kink but the possibility is there. It mighht be fun to play at home. I do know he likes me in my gear though, the corset is a definite turn on, just like all the boys and some of the girls I’ve found. I think maybe it’s that the girls find it easier to not give away that me in the corset is a turn on. For the boys their ‘compass needle’ gives them away far too easily.
Another short about a ‘Strapubus’ I liked. I’ll cut out a pieece of this for Mistress Magenta. She has a habit of collecting men for a bit of pleasure from time to tiome. Like me she struggles to find a life partner, but the Strapubus story is interesting. Trikki’s ideas sounded rather appealing, even to me.
Maybe I could press my boyfriend into some scripted role play one night and we can have a Srapubus evening?
Oh dear. Oh. I’ve made myself all unsettled.
So – the naughty shorts will be coming soon. Probably around my birthday in August. A lovely monh for some serious kink as the days start to cool and the call of the bed linnen increases.
‘Tish
Well! After a few months in bondage to the mighty dollar I’m back in the blogosphere.
Seems like when everything is going well, when I think I can relax, something comes up and breaks all my well laid plans. And so it was for me.
I’d just achieved a breakthrough in my research project when, you wouldn’t believe it, my contract was cancelled and I had to repay monies paid else a full investigation was promised. Since my role included some ‘percussive tactile therapy’ along with the quantum effects research, I gracefully withdrew.
However, out of the jaws of disaster I managed to secure a win that will I believe pay off rather nicely. I was able to keep my intellectual property I developed. After all, if the contract was cancelled, then it is mine surely? That argument was accepted and now I have it in writing. Not only that, the prototype I built along with some of the development parts was part of the deal.
Of course, this was hard fought. They said they’d give me hard time if I fought it out, and I said I’d repay in kind if I couldn’t walk away with what I wanted so we got a reasonable quid-pro-quo. They haven’t realized properly what the value of what I created was and one day soon they will.
So, what was the value of what I got? ‘m not saying, but “possibly heaps” is what I’m thinking. To convert that”possibly” into reality is what I’ve been doing these last six months or more.
Like wow, how can a girl get some time off? I’ve bought land, developed plans for a research and manufacturing facility, hired a construction team, and begun all the work needed to make it happen.
So, how did I pay for it all? Ahh, that is a very good question and my friend Trikki, my biographer, will reveal all in good time.
But that’s not all. I finally admitted to Trikki that I got myself a boyfriend. YES. An actual man not in the dungeon I can have my happy way with. It’s been a looong time since that happened, but thankfully using a man for fun and pleasure is not a hard task. It certainly has its moments. I’ve found they are easily trained.
Anyway, I’ve allowed Trikki to publish some of all that in an upcoming book of short stories….. “A Naughty Book Of Short Stories” is its provisional name. I thought it might be fun to give my followers a little intimate Tish-Action that puts a human face on the dungeon-Goddess of BDSM that I am <smile>.
Not only that, readers will see me out and about mixing with mere mortals who remain blissfully ignorant of the dominatrix in their midst. That would be me.
Trikki is such a naughty person. I have a fantasy session book that outlines many of the different sessions I do ranging from the mild to the wild, for just me and some with a full service sub, usually Angel. Well I sent Trikki some notes on a woodshed MiLF session I do where the mom puts the leather to a naughty (grown) boy’s rear along with the girl next door, all in the woodshed of course, bent over the saddle. Of course there are a few happy endings to go with the bright red rumps.
Trikki even sent me a proof copy, like wow, and there’s even the script for a ‘Ted Talk’ – wonders will never cease.
So, that’s me. More news on my next day off, hopefully not too far away.
‘Tish
Rick, one of my favorite clients, introduced me to the off billet strap.
The first thing I thought when I saw this strap; ‘What A Lovely Piece Of Leather’
Now you need to understand this; I am a dominatrix, among other things, and first class corporal punishment equipment is no stranger to me. I’ve been using them for years; canes, belts, straps, tawse, single tails, floggers and even the venerable stock whip. Ah, the stock whip; I was trained by an ambidextrous mistress who used a stock whip in each hand on a client’s butt in a session – bliss – but that’s another story.
I am a frequent flier to local and interstate suppliers of fine leather, rattan and rubber implements. I regularly scour the internet for new and interesting items and consider myself to be both knowledgeable and critical of corporal punishment equipment.
And yet with all this expertise and industry experience of mine, Rick has managed to up-stage me with this remarkable leather strap.
I once used a strap that was made of 2 layers of thick leather that were sewn together. It was about 30 inches long, 2 inches wide and it was a dismal failure. It was difficult to use and its effectiveness was disappointing. It looked more severe than it actually was.
By contrast, the off billet strap is significantly shorter yet it fits the hand ideally. It doesn’t have a narrowed down section for a hand hold, it is the same width for all its length, yet gripping it works so well. It seems to invite being held, invite the hand to grip it and then to swing it with authority.
Looking at it, it is held by the fold so that the two ends, not being sewn together, are able to move ideally through the air with the least amount of resistance. It just works.
I got the tape measure onto my Off Billet strap and made the following measurements;
Length (folded) 22 inches, width 2 inches, thickness (folded) 3/8 inch.
Now, I love using belts. Belts are just so useful and multi use.
A fine belt looks good, performs a function, and in a dungeon can generate a uniquely appealing sting. Rick and Judith adore them and their collection is extensive. Rick has been collecting for years and now with Judith he’s found a soul mate. Seeing her come to a session with a belt round her waist I just know how it’s going to be used.
Now a long belt used for corporal just doesn’t work all that well for some uses. It can impart a sting, a slap, but sometimes shortening a belt can improve it significantly.
The above is why for a good butt strapping I favor the folded (doubled) belt. It is about a foot and a half long, maybe up to two feet long and it is just right. Not too long, not too short. It is firm, it cover both butt cheeks with minimal wrap and it lands with authority. A strapping from a doubled belt is always hots the spot.
However for strapping hands and even breasts (my lady clients do have some very particular needs) a single belt is ideal. Across a breast, a doubled belt just is a bit much and let’s not talk about crutch strapping. Across hands, a doubled belt is a bit heavy. It goes to ‘thud’ whereas a hand strapping is all about sting.
Now, the off billet strap is best used across the butt as-is. Doubled. Hard. For technique the off-billet just invites use as-is. Don’t fiddle with it, just use it.
Without having it applied to my own tush (I am after all a dominatrix) I have been reliably informed that it is close in severity to the Canadian Prison Strap which surprised me.
For those not familiar, the Canadian Prison Strap has to be seen to be believed. Designed specifically for punishment of prisoners, it is one of the most severe implements I have ever used. Pulling one of these out on a first timer would not be the done thing unless they had a remarkable tolerance.
In a few days I’ll post details of the wonderful Canadian Prison Strap Rick introduced me to. I’d heard of them, but never seen or used one previously. For experienced corporal clients, these are a must have.
I occasionally check what is happening with ‘Trikki as after all, he and one of my favorite clients ‘Rick’ are good friends.
Trikki wrote ‘Ricks First Session’ about our first meeting in the dungeon. I quite liked it. Trikki does go in for long descriptions and lots of background which I enjoy.
Anyway Strict Learning is Trikki’s latest book and I grabbed a copy. It’s on special pricing and for 60,000 words the crazy price of $1 works for me. Thanks Trikki!
I LOVED it. It has three separate sections. A simple corporal session at the start, a quite long section with sex and classroom corporal, then a huge corporal session leading into some bondage and fetish at the rear.
I do like Ms Smeet the headmistress and her gear. She gives a solid strapping and caning which are attributes I see in myself. Trikki described a strapping stool which I do not have, and from his descriptions, it is something I should remedy.
All my clients indulge in a little bondage. A nice leather covered stool with lots of straps to keep them tightly bound and presented for discipline and maybe a little strap-on play would spice things up nicely. I wonder how I could get Angel involved with this for my double sessions? More thought required.
I’m a lot younger than Rick and Trikki and in the years between, the use of corporal punishment was banned in schools. I never saw or heard of it at school.
I think that’s a good thing.
On average before I moved to my current position, I was doing maybe 3 corporal sessions a day for five days a week. That’s a lot and admittedly I have a lot of repeat clients.
However, I have seen a lot of clients, and I talk to them to find their likes, their dislikes and try to get inside their heads. To be successful I believe it’s essential to find a connection and gain understanding of my clients.
What I do hear, and it is something that upsets me, is that some clients can’t abide some implements because of school days trauma.
In particular, some clients hate the cane because they were caned so hard and so often at school. They felt the injustice of it, the brutality of a grown person beating a child, that it stayed with them for decades. That’s upsetting.
I love giving corporal punishment. There is no point being shy about this. It is however between consenting adults.
The ‘swick’ of the cane as it lands across a bottom, the ‘crack’ of a strap, the ‘splat’ of the a flogger; all are delightful to me. I hear the gasps of the slave as the pain kicks in, I see them squirm in bondage, and I see their conflicted feelings. They want to escape the pain, they dread the next stroke, they love the session and don’t want it to end.
Most of all I adore watching the wide eyes of the client, the slave, taking discipline from me and seeing them change. They watch me with cane, strap, flogger or whatever tools I am using, and they steel themselves to accept what I dish out. When I tell them ‘It’s a dozen of the best for you naughty boy’ then deliver them, I see them struggle to accept the pain. But when it is over I see the relief and the pleasure at their achievement.
I love to see a client recede, regress, move from the here and now into sub-space as the session proceeds. That is the end goal, the Mistress Goal and mark of a good session. Crafting a session to suit a client, then to actually bring that about is a fantastic feeling.
Finally, at the end of a session I see them ‘re-invented’ from their time with me. They come into the session stressed, sometimes almost shaking and hardly able to hold a conversation. When they leave relaxed, reassured of their place in the world, happy and refreshed, I call that a success.
Corporal punishment has its place. It’s all part of a negotiated session. The client express a need, I work with them, I provide what is agreed.
That is the place for corporal punishment. Not in schools.
Play safe, play sane, respect is everything – ‘MT
I was emailing my dear friend Mistress Magenta this week. She is older than me, in her mid forties but like WOW is she HOT.
I’m talking a sexiness that oozes from her. In fetish I know I can make clients drool, get their eyes crossed, but Mistress Magenta takes it to a new level. She has a way of talking, of looking, of just projecting that sexiness.
Anyway, she told me about Young Again a book by Trikki Watson on Amazon. She loved it.
Mistress Magenta was not happy, she’d found a few gray hairs, a little hint of a few wrinkles, and the book by ‘Trikki hit a nerve. She said the first half was ‘vanilla’ and scene setting – but the last half made up for that very nicely.
Imagine, being able to roll back the ravages of time AND get a massive dose of kink at the same time. To see the gray hairs go, to see the bust lift and the booty firm up. Imagine the effect on the libido that a hot revived body would give. Then, during the treatment, the total immersion in kink giving a whole new aspect on life.
Mistress Magenta said the bondage and sex session taking up the last half of the book made her lust after the experience. She’s not often keen on doing a sub-session but from the Young Again book, she’d be in it, in a flash.
On her recommendation, I looked at the last half and decided this needs to be a session in my ‘Session Book’ scripts I keep for clients. I think Angel would look extra good trussed up nicely like a fetish maid and my naughty boy clients taking their discipline in straps just like in the book.
Goodness. I’ve getting a little unsettled myself.
Always a pleasure – ‘MT