Silent Quivers Updated

Silent Quivers WebSite update

I'm a huge fan of the silent quivers website.

The author is a lover of heavy corporal and all things strapping and bondage. Just what I like to deliver in a session. I do like a heavy masochist, they are so rewarding.

Do drop in and check it out. Some of the new stories are rather engaging.

Silent Quivers Is HAPPENING

Silent Quivers - Defines So Many Of My Clients

I always liked the title of my friend's website as it defines so many of my clients. They come to me after years of denial and avoidance, then they are literally quivering in the emotions they face in their first pro-Domme session.

I find it delightful at every level to be entrusted to make their first BDSM experience a good one.

So, please do visit Silent Quivers - do checkout the writings. While I am sure they don't apply to everyone, they sure to desonate with many of my clients.

I'm just wondering, what should I contyribute? Maybe details of a session? Maybe details of some of my equipment? We'll see. Work is totally engrossing, going through the startup phase and trying to delegate where possible.

For Those Not In The Know - What Is This Silent Quiver?

Rick my long standing client who has been into BDSM for most of his adolescent and all his adult life said, "It is the powerful inner emotions that the BDSM I like triggers. It is almost as if I'm quivering, vibrating in my need for it at time."

Wow. He's right. I know some firsat time clients are emotionally super fragile when I meet them so it takes a lot of empathy and care to provide just what they want. And what they need. Sometimes those two things can be difficult to define and differentiate.

Rick has been a great client and now his partner is seeing to some of his needs for corporal and bondage. She's also giving him all the sex that I don't offer which is a good thing. I'll probably make time off from my new career to session with them again shortly. They are a delightful couple.

The best thing about Rick and his partner is that they've achieved a level of acceptance for BDSM and are able to take pleasure and shared intimacy from it. It brings so much to their relationship.

Play safe - play sane - enjoy life.

MT.

 

 

I (need to) feel better now

Life Can Be So Difficult

I know. Why post again so quickly? Sigh.

The answer is that for some reason, posting the previous article about the Naughty Shorts book Trikki is writing lifted my spirits so much.

Also, it has made me make a decision. It helped set a course of action.

From making that decision I can feel a new lease of life, a new me even though I’ve not had a session in such a long time. Opening myself up has also been cathartic.

How long has it been since I had a session?

Maybe six months. Heavens. I can give five or more sessions to my clients in an evening, but does Mistress Tish get anything in return (well there is the money)? No. The answer is I give and give and all I get is cold hard emotionless money. Where is my stress relief? Who puts back into me? How an I fulfilled?

Who understands the difficulty of crafting BDSM sessions that captivate and consume my clients, shift their perceptions into sub space and gives them relief more than me?

Often clients and others peripherally on the edges of BDSM think the Mistress is all seeing and all knowing. Let me tell you. It can be a challenge. Sure I have an eye that takes in and analyzes with one glance. I see the kneeling slave, I can almost get into his or her head, then I craft the session to fulfil. To consume. To transport. But it comes at a cost. Nothing is for free. I put in energy both physical and emotional.

The physical effort is easy. I work out, I run, I swim and do a little martial arts training. But the emotional energy is different. It lingers. It sits deeply. Sometimes after a big afternoon and evening of giving demanding sessions I am washed out. I feel like my brain is almost bruised and I’ve got nothing more to give.

I suppose it would be easier if I didn’t care about my clients. I could just sort of session them. I could ease up on the creativity. I could fixate on me and my needs instead of giving them what they need (as opposed to what they want) and I think that would be a lot easier.

The problem is that it would not be honest. I would not be providing a proper service to them. I know my client list would shrink and my return-rate would drop. So the money would reduce. DAMN it is all about the money again.

I can only be me and that comes at a cost.

The Pleasures Of a Boyfriend

Now those of you following my blog (thank you) know that Roger has been a God-send for me. I’m not a clingy-needy person, but having a steady boyfriend has been a revelation.

Together and being a couple is almost addictive. Being up front and honest with him on night one was a winning strategy. Now he understands who I am and we form a couple based on trust and connection. Sure, the sex is brilliant and his mind is even better. Wow. The full package.

Hmm. I’ve not tried him with dancing yet. He is a bit geeky. It could be challenging to keep a straight face if I get him onto the dance floor. Oh dear. I’m feeling the humour in that right now. Again my spirits lift.

The problem is that the wonderful togetherness, the sex, the snuggling between the sheets and the soul touching communication aren’t the complete thing for me. My own need for a BDSM session is still there. It festers. It grows.

It is so hard to be honest isn’t it.

I know I expect it of my clients, yet when it is me and writing those words I was and am so tempted to erase the whole article.

The Stigma Lingers

What is it with this? I am a professional dominatrix yet I struggle to express my needs. It feelts strangly hypocritical and that upsets me. I hate dishonesty.

I know my sessions make my subs feel better. They come in stressed out, tense, almost quivering in their inner tensions. Then when they leave they are truly new people.

Yet I struggle with my own needs. I struggle to express them. Most of all I struggle to actually do something about it.

I have tried therapy. A little. It was a mixed blessing as not all therapists are created equal. In fact, before my first session where Magenta sessioned me, I spent an agonizing couple of hours on the couch talking about me. The insights from that really did help.

Maybe this could be yet another ‘short’ for Trikki. Mistresses first session. Oh dear. That would make it even slower to be released.

On that. Therapy. It is a strange thing to open oneself up to a stranger. No matter that they are a professional. But doing it really is helpful.

Thinking about that some more, it is exactly what my clients do when I session them. I am their therapist. I listen to their needs, I analyze their reactions, I take them through a session that gives them fundamental relief.

So why am I so precious about this?

It is a stigma that lingers long after my vanilla upbringing. My parents instilled in me a certain mind set that is not compatible with my work or my needs. Now I find that struggle in accepting I am a real person with real needs.

I will have a session.

Having made the decision and writing this, I feel the relief in me.

To Be Complete

But you dear reader, and I know many of my subs follow my exploits, you all now know that Mistress is a real person with her own needs. She’s maybe not the ice-queen she portrays in session.

Like us all, Mistress is multi faceted. Denying one piece of Mistress, pushing it into the background leads to significant stress. Just like for her subs.

So, it is time for Mistress Magenta to take me to sub space again for an hour. The questions that leap out are;

1. What do I tell Roger?

2. Should he participate?

Sure, Mistress Tish gets her full service sub Angel to give her clients a happy ending. Should Mistress Tish when she is having a session herself have a happy ending? It is appealing. Roger may in fact enjoy it for a double or more happy ending.

Damn. Those are diverting thoughts.

Then the next demeaning question is;

3. Should I tell Trikki for his naughty shorts?

Damn and triple damn.  How precious is Mistress with her needs? That is the real question. Oh. And how brave?

I need to talk to Magenta about this. When Trikki eventually publishes his book of naughty shorts it will be probably be over 500 pages and growing. I think he needs a little push to get it finished.

Pay safe and sane,

‘Tish

Depression and BDSM

I see Rick over at Silent Quivers has finally got some content up on his website, and I see the depression topic has been a focus. My goodness, it has taken him a while. I presume he and Judith have had a busy Christmas.

My take on depression is simple; see your doctor. Start there. Do it. Now.

I mean, if you break a bone or get a nasty cut, what do you do? You see a doctor. Then when you see the doctor they do a few things to get you right again. Depression is the same. No one thing is going to fix it and it takes time.

Cuts heal over time, depression heals over time. Both need the right care. If you had a nasty cut, would you put dirt on it? No. Same for depression. You do the right things to get cured.

I told you my take on it was simple.

Depression is awful. I see clients with it and I can cater for some of their needs but human beings are complex, depression happens for a number of reasons and more than one at the same time.

I promise that a good hard caning from me will take your mind off your depression… but I don’t think it treats the problem.

What I saw on the Russian internet article was that the caning was part of a clinic, not just a BDSM session that I and those like me provide. More than one thing, more than one therapy was happening, the ‘treatment’ wasn’t just a caning.

Anyway, applause to Rick at Silent Quivers for getting started. Christmas and the new year can be a difficult time for some, perhaps he’ll do some good.

Play happy – ‘MT

BDSM For Stress Relief

Well Hello There.

It is difficult blogging, security here is tight and I’m honor as well as contractually and security bound to observe full security on my work. Both kinds of work.

My life has been more than busy what with the R&D project I’m involved with, but also the ‘special needs’ aspect of my engagement have been soaking up time too. Whilst I can’t detail exactly what I’m doing, I can give you a subtle feeling.

Subtle feelings and a dominatrix do not go hand-in-hand, but I’ll try.

Firstly, my new research is progressing toward a breakthrough in the realization of the theory. Simple as that. My supervisor believes, as do I, that it will develop into a new form of technology. There are so many avenues and pathways this can take. I’m looking for the pathway with wealth at the end of course.

Money. Wealth. Aside; what is it with BitCoin recently? Where is it really headed? My own stash, since I was doing sessions with part payment in BitCoin for the last 6 years is substantial and all of a sudden it is  worth real money. Lucky I didn’t buy pizzas with them as other people were doing.

My special after hours activities are also becoming demanding. Strangely enough, I’m finding my dominatrix work is becoming essential for my own stress relief. Immersing myself in the quantum continuum and spending so many hours deep in theory I find my brain does regularly need a rest. Just getting into my gear produces just such a feeling as after all, I’ve been doing it for a long time now. It’s amazing how the feeling of dressing in leather or rubber shifts my perceptions, changes my personality.

Maybe Rick at SilentQuivers.com should write a small essay on the linking of the brains response to various forms of tactile stimulus. I might suggest it.

My dominatrix skills were the reason for me getting this engagement. Sure, the physics side was mandatory but the BDSM side was necessary to ‘treat’ other scientists. Euphemistically I could say that I’m whipping them into shape and you’d get the idea. The reality is that with the stress in their lives they need to escape and shift their perceptions.

What relieves stress and takes the individual away from reality better than a corporal punishment BDSM session? Answer; such a session with Mistress Tish. The whip helps, but the bondage, the restraint and lock and leave in a dungeon, the knowledge they must submit to ME are equally as cleansing for them as the whip. Rest assured the whip, the strap, the tawse and cane are not spared. Why should mere scientists get special attention and miss out on anything?

My first session with Dr X went well. He’s now got both mental and emotional feet back on the ground but sitting is difficult (as it should be after proper discipline). General-B is delighted but limited in his praise. “Doctor Swift, a war is not won with a single battle,” and I guess I know what he means. Dr X will get his next session soon enough. Submitting to Mistress will become his regular therapy.

Now, I struggle to believe it, they are foisting another scientist on me. Sigh. This time it is a woman and whilst I’m no stranger to applying thr strap to woman-bits, I do find it challenging. Hopefully Mandy will help.

‘Trikki over at TrikkiWatson.com is my biographer, writing up the notes I dictate and will release a new title in the coming weeks, maybe for the new year.

I notice that Rick over at ‘SilentQuivers.com’ is struggling with his website. I should send William my I.T. slave over to help him, but since William broke my site, I might resist that temptation. I like Rick, his idea of a site that demystifies BDSM and talks to the people for whom it is taboo yet appealing is a good idea. I’ve had so many newbie clients crying from stress, anything that helps them can’t be a bad thing.

For now, play safe, play sane, ‘MT